Whether you’re a beginner or an advanced user, choosing the right size butt plug (also called an anal plug) can be tricky.
First and foremost, you want to make sure you’re comfortable, but you also want good stimulation – after all, that’s what it’s all about!
Why would you want to use a butt plug in the first place?
- The anus is rich with sensitive nerve endings that respond to different types of stimulation like touch, heat, pressure, and friction – all of which can be very pleasurable!
- Individuals with a penis can use butt plugs to stimulate the prostate, which can lead to a prostate orgasm. Individuals with a vulva can have buttplugs increase stimulation of the vaginal canal, which feels fantastic when combined with vaginal penetration.
- Plus, you can wear the butt plug in public or during your everyday activities for an extra kick.
- Butt plugs can be used in BDSM – a Dom may require his sub to wear an anal plug.
- To prepare for anal sex, you can use an anal plug for anal training.
- The anus is rich with sensitive nerve endings that respond to various types of stimulation such as touch, heat, pressure, and friction – all of which can be very pleasurable!
- Individuals with a penis can use butt plugs to stimulate the prostate, which can lead to a prostate orgasm. Individuals with a vulva can have buttplugs increase stimulation of the vaginal canal, which feels fantastic when combined with vaginal penetration.
- Plus, you can wear the butt plug in public or during your everyday activities for an extra kick.
- Butt plugs can be used in BDSM – a Dom may require his sub to wear an anal plug.
- To prepare for anal sex, you can use an anal plug for anal training.
Butt plug anatomy
While there are countless exciting design features, all butt plugs have a few things in common. The one with any toy you want to use anally has a wide base to prevent it from going completely inside you, migrating upward and requiring an emergency room trip to get it out.
Then there’s a neck around which the sphincter muscles contract to keep the plug in place. Butt plugs also have a tapered tip that makes insertion easier.
The two measurements to consider when buying a butt plug are the insertion length, which is how far it fits inside you, and the diameter. Some websites list the diameter and others the circumference – so pay attention to which measurement is listed!
We’re dealing with diameter today, as it’s easier to visualize, but if you want to calculate circumference, you can do that here:
Circumference = Diameter x π, so 3.14
Butt plug size chart
This chart is an estimate of the different butt plug sizes, but just like with clothing sizes, not all stores will divide the sizes small, medium and large the same way. This means that it is super important to always check the measurements.
There are no hard and fast rules for choosing butt plugs, as every butt is unique. Besides physiology, your comfort level also plays a role in choosing the right size. If you’re nervous, you’ll probably tighten your muscles more, so it’s better to choose a smaller size. When it comes to anal play, it’s always best to go slowly and gently. Start with a smaller plug, get used to it, enjoy it, and then move up to a larger size if you want!
Beginners – XS
If you are brand new to anal penetration, have a very small body, or are afraid of putting something in your butt, you should start with an extra small plug.
Usually, plugs are less than < 2.5 cm in diameter, making them very slim. Depending on your body, you may not feel much stimulation to find out if you like anal play and get used to the feeling.
Beginner – S
Small plugs usually have a diameter of between 2.6 and 3 cm and are suitable for beginners. If you’re not nervous about trying a butt plug or already have experience with anal play, for example with a finger, then you might want to try a small plug to get a little more stimulation.
Advanced beginners – M
Medium sized butt plugs range in size from 3.1 to 4 inches. The average size of an erect penis is 4 cm. Moreover, so if you’ve ever had anal sex or used a finger or two, you should go for this size.
Advanced – L
For people who already have experience with medium sized plugs or who are familiar with anal sex with a penis or dildo can opt for this size. Large butt plugs are usually between 4.1 and 5 inches in diameter and provide a satisfyingly full stretch.
Expert – XL Butt Plug
From here on we have reached sizes of breathtaking proportions! Usually the plugs have a diameter of over 5 cm and offer an intense feeling of stretching and are best for anal lovers who want to experience particularly large and intense sensations. In preparation for butt plugs of this size, you should gradually build up your tolerance with smaller plugs before attempting to insert an extra-large anal plug.
How to go up a size with butt plugs….
The most important thing is to go slow and steady! I know the big plugs look tempting and you’re thinking about how wonderfully full they’ll feel, but trust me, you don’t want to rush it. Even if your brain thinks you’re ready, it takes time for your butt to get used to it. Give yourself enough time to enjoy each stage.
Anal plug training set
If you don’t want to buy a new anal plug every time and want to save money, you can buy an anal training kit.
What size is safe to wear all day?
Certainly, wearing a butt plug is a great way to spice up housework a bit. However, it is recommended that you do not wear a butt plug for more than 2-3 hours at a time to limit the possibility of tissue damage by restricting blood circulation. Are there people who wear them longer? Yes. Is it recommended? No! You can still have the pleasure of wearing a plug in public or during everyday activities, but remember to give your butt a break and always watch for signs of irritation or damage. And of course, if you notice any pain or bleeding, take your butt plug out immediately.
If you’re going to wear your butt plug for a few hours at a time, there are a few features you should look for:
- Soft silicone is the best material because it’s much more comfortable, especially when you sit down.
- Choose a thin, flexible neck so your sphincters don’t get stretched too much.
- A T-bar base is most comfortable because the base can sit comfortably between your butt.
Tips for using butt plugs
Now you know exactly what size you should buy. Here are some tips for a smooth ride on your first trip with buttplugs!
- Always start small – both in the long run and at each session! Start by massaging the anus, then use smaller toys or a finger to warm up before using something larger.
- Unlike the vagina, the anus does not produce its own lubricant, so lube is very important! Just make sure that the lube you choose is compatible with the butt plug you choose. Water-based lube works best for silicone sex toys, but needs to be applied more frequently, while silicone lube is suitable for metal or glass butt plugs and glides better.
- If you’re using an anal plug or toy for the first time, you may want to try it in the shower first. The warm environment can help you relax, making insertion much easier.
- Practice safe sex. If you’re sharing your sex toy with a partner with whom you don’t have a committed relationship, cover the toy with a condom.
- Be sure to clean your anal plug thoroughly after use.
- Always listen to your body! If you feel pain or notice bleeding when inserting or while wearing an anal plug, stop immediately! Then remove the plug and assess the situation.